Thursday, September 26, 2013

Some wounds run deep..

"My dear,

You are my darling.Typing this for the tenth time todat,Getting disconnected."

"I dont think I can survive your absence now."

Words...and more words....thirty pages in my yahoo account - pages after pages of emails, I dont even know how many over the past couple of years but words and more words and a thousand "I love yous". I love yous and Darlings. And he has left me again, without another look back at me. These words wash over me like waves, like shifting sands, every day that passes takes me further away from the countless phone calls and the emails till I feel like there will come a day when I will wonder if I imagined it all. Because he has left me again. Walked away without looking back. Again.

Bye Dad. Yes, I am a wimp and I accept apologies quickly and I am quick to forgive and I have an inherent default setting of wanting to preserve relationships and my husband and best friend are convinced that I will let you back in my life and my heart if you ever decide to come back, but today I will learn from these wounds and learn from my unshed tears and my broken heart and WILL NOT let you break it again.

I am still in disbelief that a person can value his own blood so low. Still in disbelief that a man can walk away from his child again and again. Still in disbelief that someone can say and express such love and then turn their back in the same breath.

I have always seen men whose love was true, whose words meant something, who did what they said so I am still in disbelief over you and so immensely grateful for the others. My father - there is a Shahrukh Khan movie - the actress says "Tuzh mein rab dikhta hain" (I see God in you), I see God in my father. This kind gentle man who fought for me when I was a baby, took me away to live with him and gave me a name and stood by me like a rock (and still does) all my life. I see God in him. And it would indeed be a great disservice and heights of ungratefulness if I cried over you. So I wont. I will count my blessings and think of you as some evil deed from my prior life which had to be repaid in a broken heart and soundless sobbing. Because you have left me all over again. And this time you did have a choice. And you once again didnt choose me. All over again.


  1. It is indeed sad to see you yearn for your Biological Dad's love.
    I see him as a sperm donor (sorry for being blunt). you have a wonderful Father, a man, you should be proud to call Baba. A man you are so lucky to have in your life.
    A father is someone who raises you and is there for you.
    I lost my wonderful father when I was 17 and I mourn for him everyday but I consider it an honor to have been his daughter.
    you do your father a great disservice by pining for this other man.
    sure Forgive and move on and keep him in your life by means, but make no mistake, he is not your father, you already have one gal, call him and tell him I think he is a great guy.

  2. Of course!! Thanks for your frank words. Sometimes I think I tend (like many others) seem to want more than whats given. And I have already been given a lot!!! My Baba is an amazing guy and he is my father. It is true this guy is/was just a sperm donor, what had hurt was his fake sweet words. But now I have moved past it :)